“Don’t despise hate. It can keep a person going a long time. And people who have been hurt have got a right to a certain amount of it. It’s a dead end, it’s a trap, but understand that it’s part of surviving, it’s a bridge, it’s a bridge to the future. Hating the person who hurts you is important. Sometimes it’s anger. Women don’t like being angry, women are afraid of anger and we will hurt ourselves rather than be angry with those who are hurting us but sometimes it’s anger that keeps a woman alive.”